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JEFFREY NORDSTROM

On Jami Breese's "Crucial Conversations" notes.

10/24/2016

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Self-help, leadership, and motivational literature is all about getting out of ruts and expressing yourself authentically. Much like religious devotional literature, they all riff off of the same sorts of human truths. Also like devotional literature, what you connect with is often more a matter of tone than content.

I like these pithy outlines that I found on Pinterest today. They appear to be outlines from a "Crucial Conversations" workshop that Jami Breese put together in a creative and accessible manner. These notes have piqued my interest in Crucial Conversations, so I'll be keeping an eye out for potential future workshops.

I'm going to go through a couple of the ideas that I like here. Since it seems like the outlines are each in a specific order, I'll follow that order myself.

Sketch 1: #crucialconversations steps 1 & 2

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This sketch makes me think of the following:
  • "How did you get your way as a child?" Well, I imagine I sulked, considering how sulky I can be today. This is not a good thing. My sulking is one of the behaviors that I believe most exasperated my wife over the years. I need to learn how to assert myself and stand up to people without falling into a sulk.
  • "Unbundle with CPR: Content, Pattern, Relationship." I don't really get what the diagram shows, but I like how it ends at "relationship." I can't imagine much that doesn't. Despite all of my most difficult characteristics, I'd like to think that I always try to end at relationship. It doesn't mean I know how to get there, though. So perhaps I need to figure out what "pattern" and "content" are in order to get to the "relationship" part more effectively.
  • "Unhealthy motives:"​ 

Sketch 2: #crucialconverations steps 3 & 4

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  • "Separate facts from stories:" This is one of the main tasks I try to do with my students. All of us, myself included of course, create stories out of disparate facts and patterns, and then we have trouble interpreting those facts from patterns. It can be a serious problem for perception when our stories and facts get too intertwined. 
  • "The Downward Spiral:" I don't get this image. I guess you can spiaral out of control into a role, into either a villain, a victim, or a helpless? Not sure about this.
  • "Form a mentor network:" I am extremely averse to mentorship. Therefore, it's likely something I need if I'm going to get myself out of this rut.

Sketch 3: #crucialconversations steps 5 & 6

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  • "Silence=Withholding, Violence=compelling others:" Never thought of it that way. I'll have to check that out with my students.
  • "1: Step out of the Content, 2: Rebuild Safety, 3: Step Back In:" That's the sort of mantra I should have beside my desk. Many students come from broken homes and certainly do not feel safe in their lives. I like the idea of making sure the content I teach and the safety of the classroom are separate ideas. This could also be a good way to deal with some parenting issues, especially since home life is often too complex to really separate content from feelings.
  • "Respect is like air: You don't notice until it's not there--then it's all you notice." Ooo.... that's totally true. I can see call-out culture fans making memes out of that. (probably worth a separate post.)
  • "Contrast is a blue ribbon skill:" Comparison can be the enemy of moving forward because comparing often involves saying one thing is "better" than another. Contrasting, however, doesn't necessitate value judgements. I think?

Sketch 4: #crucialconversations steps 7, 8, & 9 

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  • "CRIB:" good parenting and group leadership plan. I'll look into it more.
  • "Lecture is a form of attack:" Which is why I've tried (and often failed) to stop using lectures as a communication technique.

I've printed off a few copies of these for my classroom so I can keep them on hand. Perhaps I'll post them to my filing cabinet with all my other resources. And then, once I get this apartment fully set-up, once the girls are settled in their new place, I'll be able to pick up the book and possibly try to adopt some of this. Maybe just one of them. Maybe just one.

Because I'm a dork and I have two whiteboards to put up in my home so I can lay out these ideas and try to get my life back on track. Because, as much as I'd like to deny it, I'm likely a teacher through and through. 
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A few photos and videos: Fall 2016.

10/23/2016

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It's been hard to take photos over the last few months due to my continuing depression and lack of routine. I haven't gone anywhere new and I'm not really seeing those "special" things in the commonplace like I would if I felt better.

Nonetheless, here are a few photos I've posted to social media over the last couple months.

To Instagram

You know it's a huge #spider when the cell phone camera can find it and instantly focus on it.

A photo posted by Jeffrey Nordstrom (@jeffnords) on Oct 7, 2016 at 4:20pm PDT

A little "do you choose park or DQ?" totem. #totem #totempole #Chilliwack #ShareChilliwack

A photo posted by Jeffrey Nordstrom (@jeffnords) on Sep 9, 2016 at 10:07pm PDT

#agassiz #agassizfallfair #midway #ferriswheel

A video posted by Jeffrey Nordstrom (@jeffnords) on Sep 16, 2016 at 8:54pm PDT


To Twitter

Quite possibly the last ferry-to-the-house-of-my-youth trip I'll ever make. #timelapse #YYJ pic.twitter.com/SZwWj9kAXC

— Jeffrey Nordstrom (@jeffnords) October 15, 2016

I trolled yearbook photo day today with this jersey I got in middle school. Take that, Canucks fans! pic.twitter.com/zXoGC189c5

— Jeffrey Nordstrom (@jeffnords) September 23, 2016

To Tumblr

http://jeffnords.tumblr.com/post/151730761781/thank-you-auston-matthews-for-giving
http://jeffnords.tumblr.com/post/151548123161/playing-at-surrey-arts-centre

I also created a jeffnords profile for Playstation, signed up for DeviantArt and DailyMotion, and signed up for businessorpleasure.ca, hoping to make it the centre of a future project. I don't expect to use DailyMotion and DeviantArt often, if at all, but it's nice to have them on hand in case I ever need them.

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10/17/2016

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I don't think I've just sat and watched a YouTube video since June or so. My brain can't handle the concentration.

— Jeffrey Nordstrom (@jeffnords) October 17, 2016
I think it's safe to say that I'm currently working at about 25%. My brain is having trouble taking in new information. It's like my processor has moved into a sort of survival mode, where I'm doing all the things I'm supposed to do to get through hard times... and nothing more. 

I haven't been able to sit and concentrate on a YouTube video or television show for months; I can barely take in a podcast; I have no creative or insightful things to offer to anybody right now.

And I have to admit that my students are not getting the best version of "Mr.. Nordstrom" right now.

It's kind-of embarrassing. Understandable, not humiliating, but embarrassing.

I read an article yesterday that summed it up nicely. I posted a section of it to my Tumblr: 
http://jeffnords.tumblr.com/post/151903488501/but-it-is-not-easy-the-cost-of-this-peace-and
*BLAM*

Needless to say, I can't wait to get my brain working right again.
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Sting's "What Have We Got?"

10/11/2016

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A few months ago, I picked up a copy of Sting's The Last Ship from a library sale. I gave it its first real listen just last week.

As usual, it's an excellent album. Loads of excellent storytelling and tasteful, pristine production.

But this song's my favourite.
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